Confused

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There are times in your life when you've no idea what you're doing. There's this strong urge to drop everything you're doing and run somewhere far away. Somewhere where you're aware of yourself and what you really want. Somewhere where things are not so confusing. You don't have to live up to any body's expectations. When you start living for someone else's expectations ..you forget your OWN.

 I have no idea as to what am I doing. Some days I dream about success and how I am going to achieve everything that I've dreamt about. Some days I question my own abilities to do so. I feel like I am going to be such a failure to people who have these high expectations of me. And I fear to think what if it comes true and what my next step will be.

 I want to freeze time. Stop the inevitable. But I cannot . I am helpless to my own self. These what ifs  keep running around my head. I have no idea. I hate that I have no idea. My days are spent worrying instead of acting on the problem.

But I can't help it. It feels like I am drowning under things I don't want to do. It's like I am content with drowning but I am forced to come up for air even when I don't want to. It barely feels like I am living. I am just surviving. I feel like I am gonna loose out on everything I have wanted to do. I don't blame anyone for this though. I don't even blame myself. Because I am saving that blame for the future when it's gonna be needed.

But you know the irony? These exact thoughts make me want to work hard. Prove to myself that I can achieve whatever I want. If I have dared to dream then I need to act it out too. Work Hard to stand up in my own eyes. The girl who refused to prove herself  to anyone except herself. I am my self's biggest competition.
Competition to be better than I was yesterday. 

Words

I need to talk to you
They are talking behind my back.
If only she would talk to me.
I stopped talking to her.
He hates talking.
Everyone talks about her.

These are sentences we may have come across a lot of times in our lives. Some we say to someone , some we've heard from someone. The common thing in the above sentences is talking.

Now, I love talking. I enjoy conversation, I wasn't built for small talk. 
We don't just talk gibberish. We have language- a tool no other organism on this planet has.  Yet sometimes it feels as though we do, right? We humans take talking for granted.


I was hanging out with this girl who I had just become friends with. She was telling me stuff about herself when a girl went by us. I didn't know her but this friend of mine immediately started talking crude things about her. Now, I am not the one who believes rumours easily. I was appalled to find out the girl was nothing as she had described her to be. I love talking but not trash talking about someone and needless to say she stopped being friends with me when I told her how wrong she was.

I love talking about current affairs. I watch a lot of news and love debating. There this guy who holds the same interest in subjects that I do and I love talking to him. It's heaven and I enjoy it thoroughly.

Then there this friend of mine, who I have stopped talking to. I am not going to tell you why because it's the same old story. Some misunderstandings and neither of us wants to talk to each other.


That's a lot of talking. But in each of the above, there's a different meaning behind each talk. Now I am a firm believer of this statement
 " If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all"
I have a hard time understanding why people can't grasp this. Talking holds a lot of power. But it's up to you to decide what kind of talk you prefer. And the kind of talks you have with everyone makes up your personality. Choose yours words wisely. The way you communicate, says a lot about you.

Hitler was a gifted orator. He had this spell bound effect on the audience. Though the topics of his speech were immoral, people agreed with him and he built a very strong army to lead the nation.
Now imagine him speaking about different countries helping each other. What if these talks were about unification of the world and togetherness? Imagine the kind of army he would have built then.

Now I am not focusing on only talking good. There's a lot of bad in this world. Talk against it. Spread awareness about it. Use your tongue for a good reason. And see the change.

Choose what you say carefully. Whether it is in front the person or behind that person's back. Talk Beautiful. Say nice things. Bring a smile on a person's face while you talk.
Also talk against things you don't approve. Stand up against your bully. Make sure your voice is heard. Out loud. Inspire a change in someone when you talk.
Don't let your talks demean someone or kill someone's hope.
Encourage someone to talk with you if they're feeling low. Help them. Words play a big role in healing all wounds.




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Tell someone random they are beautiful. The joy when they hear these words will bring a wave of happiness to you too.
After all talking is all it takes to solve all problems.

Now go and spread some happy words while I talk and clear out my misunderstandings.

Shoes

"We must understand before we judge."

We all are humans with our own individual lives. We go through ups and downs and yearn for someone to understand us. But sometimes we know exactly what the person in front of us is going through. A stranger on a flat screen or a pal you are close with. No matter who it is.

We empathize with them.

Empathy shouldn't be confused with sympathy. Sympathy is when you feel sorrow for the person wearing miss-matched pair of shoes. Empathy is when you are standing in the other person's shoes. And they don't fit you. They neither fit that other person and you go through the mutual pain of wearing the wrong sized shoes. The pain makes you empathize with that person.

In this fast-paced 21st century, keep aside empathy, we don't even have time for sympathy. The idea of dealing with other problems leaving our own doesn't seem like a good idea. And we expect others to understand us.

Let's be honest. Now imagine if you are in some serious bad situation. You've shared your problem with someone. Would you like a " I feel so bad for you" OR " I understand you "  reply from them?

I would always go for the latter one. I don't want someone feeling bad for me. I rather want someone to understand me. I want a person who is ready to share my pain with themselves.  It's like having a more personal and specific bond with them.

Only if we empathize with the people who truly need it. We start respecting the person going through that hurdle of their life. We look at the world with a new perspective after we ourselves go through that mutual hurdle with them.  And then we take actions that are needed to be taken. Happiness and joy can bring us close but not as close as the pain and sorrow we share with someone. It's like having a person accepting you with every imperfection in your life.

So whoever is reading this. I ask you to truly empathize with at least one person. Put yourself in their shoes. Look from a different perspective. Feel what they feel.

And take the necessary actions.

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