Wednesday, 10 June 2015

Shoes

"We must understand before we judge."



We all are humans with our own individual lives. We go through ups and downs and yearn for someone to understand us. But sometimes we know exactly what the person in front of us is going through. A stranger on a flat screen or a pal you are close with. No matter who it is.


We empathize with them.

Empathy shouldn't be confused with sympathy. Sympathy is when you feel sorrow for the person wearing miss-matched pair of shoes. Empathy is when you are standing in the other person's shoes. And they don't fit you. They neither fit that other person and you go through the mutual pain of wearing the wrong sized shoes. The pain makes you empathize with that person.


In this fast-paced 21st century, keep aside empathy, we don't even have time for sympathy. The idea of dealing with other problems leaving our own doesn't seem like a good idea. And we expect others to understand us.


Let's be honest. Now imagine if you are in some serious bad situation. You've shared your problem with someone. Would you like a " I feel so bad for you" OR " I understand you "  reply from them?
I would always go for the latter one. I don't want someone feeling bad for me. I rather want someone to understand me. I want a person who is ready to share my pain with themselves.  It's like having a more personal and specific bond with them.

Only if we empathize with the people who truly need it. We start respecting the person going through that hurdle of their life. We look at the world with a new perspective after we ourselves go through that mutual hurdle with them.  And then we take actions that are needed to be taken. Happiness and joy can bring us close but not as close as the pain and sorrow we share with someone. It's like having a person accepting you with every imperfection in your life.


So whoever is reading this. I ask you to truly empathize with at least one person. Put yourself in their shoes. Look from a different perspective. Feel what they feel.
And take the necessary actions.
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